This is pure conjecture, but if a study were done on the different types of human male personalities, the results could prove startling. Breaking men down into subgenus and different pheno-types would result in two different types of males. The two different types of males would then split into two sub-categories and then further into sub-groups within said sub-categories. Following yet? Good. The two male personalities could encompass a range of feelings, emotions, motives and perspectives. If the ying for a male would be sports, competition and a masculine urge to win, the yang would be an indifference to victory and or defeat but a masculine urge to find out the motivations of competition.
This dichotomous relationship might exist in all males looking for a primary raison d’etre. The analytical male described initially as the one who cared not about winning or losing but the reasons why the game was played at all would be more focused on learning the nuances of the game. This is not the case so he could win or game the system as it were, but possibly to understand all the players involved in the game. Their motivations are more important than the actual game itself. The need would not be then to dominate the game or come to terms with all the facets of winning, losing or the microcosmic aspects of the game. The need would be a more existential discovery. How long have the combatants, contestants been playing? Does the game have an end? Who is the winner? Who is the loser? What happens if the game suddenly stops?
The other male personality would have no interest in figuring out all the little insignificant “stuff” like navel gazing and trying to understand why the game exists. His sole motivation would be to play and more importantly to win. His obsession with the sport and to a larger degree with the game would have less to do with figuring out all the minutiae behind playing and what it means to his existence and would focus more on finding a way to game, the game. The navel gazing fellow has already lost the game according to the active participant, because he never participated in the first place. He was wondering so much that he missed the point of the game… to play.
Is this some sort of double-speak? Do men really fall into one category or another? Most assuredly not. The stated goal earlier was a hypothetical look at whether males have two distinct personalities. Just as looking at the two covers of this magazine, one would find that of an alpha male very strong, stern and certain of the world around him. The second photo (or first, depending on the point of view) illustrates the analytical man who wants to understand how and why, all while performing his task.
What will really bake the noodles of men and women everywhere is that both Mr. Analytical and Mr. Assertive are one in the same guy. One personality may be dormant or recessive while the other may be dominant and aggressive. Those who have both in equal abundance may find themselves constantly at odds with themselves. Mr. Analytical may approach life wondering whether he will ever find the perfect woman. Mr. Analytical may sleep around, may consider relationships way too much of a drag to dedicate a larger percentage of their time. Mr. Analytical may be a bad boy who has no time to play games, even though he enjoys studying them. He may have plenty of time for work and figuring out that that’s all he wants to do with food, sleeping and sex intertwined somewhere within the lifestyle.
Mr. Assertive on the other hand seeks order in his world. He wants a winner and a loser. Theoretical implications of anything confuse the issue and cause more problems than actually addressing things and facing them head on. Mr. Assertive would rather be a part of the game. He engages in the relationship with the woman than sit on the sidelines. He works for a living but is not controlled by his job, he looks to making good on his promise and is fairly structured if at times disheveled in his appearance. He can clean up well if he has to, but for the most part is not overly concerned with his appearance.
In the end maybe the reality behind both types of personalities is that they actually are one in the same. They may not have to fight it out to see who wins because they co-exist in all men. It is a generalization to be sure, but ask a woman about a man who is angry at one moment and ready to send flowers the next how she explains his behavior and she may reply, “I don’t know, it seems like he has two different personalities.”