Can a person really feel anymore alive than they do right now? Absolutely; and I am sure you already knew the answer to that question. If you’re “normal”, you have been up, down, and everywhere in between. We understand the “up’s and downs” of life, and have come to expect them. Down phases often bring us to a halt. Up phases wake us up. Surviving the moments in-between, is where most people exist, most of the time. Life takes over and time seems to constrict us. Everyone uses the excuse that they would really start living, if they only had more time; while the time for living is right now. Carpe Diem; seizing the moment is the surest way to feel alive. There is not just one way to feel more alive; there are billions. When our eyes are open, we see there are endless reasons to celebrate each day. We start to feel a bit dead inside when we forget. The key to feeling alive is to live. Deep down we know what we really want and need. We all have a vision of our best life; actually having the courage to live it is another thing.
A wise young sage once told me, “If you want to love God, love what he gave you.” He said that I should focus on loving myself and my life; that this was the greatest gift any of us can give. When we love our lives, we are giving thanks for the gift it is. Hating ourselves is the equivalent of “spitting in the face of God”; or at the very least, your parents. Our lives are meant to be lived out loud; we are multi-faceted beings, with diverse talents, gifts, interests and needs. When we are living life from behind layers of fear, it becomes dull, and often, monotonous. Feelings of shame, regret, anger and even the “what ifs”, leave you in the dark; cutting you off from the fullness of your being.An enlivened state comes from a deeper awareness of life; you will need to be present, open, and available, to achieve such heights.
We’ve all experienced ‘defining moments’ in our lives; they are amplified and somehow stand out from others. Whether it was the birth of a child or landing a great deal, I’m sure you can recall a few “high-definition” moments from your own life. “H.D” moments are more colorful and vivid, feelings are intensified and you’re totally present and aware. Making a great play in a game or at work can create such a moment, but most times they are more subtle and sudden. Our ability to remain open, and engaged in an experience, is what creates the ‘Technicolor’ difference. “What experiences stand out for you?” “Do you see a pattern?”
If you are going through life in a fog, you are not totally alive. Shutting down your feelings, or denying issues in your life, shuts you down to a multitude of experiences. A flower does not resist its birth, and neither should we. Feeling more “alive” is a choice; you can take conscious actions to awaken your senses. Love’s the most powerful force; it brings us back to life, time and again. Purpose finding moments are much the same; suddenly things make sense, and you know exactly what to do. When we “take off the blinders”, the truth is revealed. Life bubbles with possibilities and we are once again, reborn. Are you ready to live more fully? The following suggestions will start the process, and inspire you to create your own ways, to “resuscitate” your life.
1.Stop Living in the Past: The surest way to kill the moment is to live in the past, or get lost in the future. We must learn to live our lives in the now, or be always one step away from ourselves. Finding our rhythm and balance is a process that can only be found by living in the moment. If you stop running, and take a few deep breaths, you will know exactly what you need, in any given moment. Take time to check in with yourself throughout the day; ask yourself the important questions. “How am I feeling right now?” “What do I need right now?” Ask your body what type of food it needs to be healthy and strong; a response or “knowingness” will guide you. Your soul will reveal what it needs to thrive as well; our greatest passions and joys are the food of the soul. If you find yourself feeling “off centered”, caught somewhere between yesterday and tomorrow, spending a few minutes breathing deeply in quiet reflection, can instantly restart your day. Wiggle and stretch about, until your mind and body calm, then relax into the moment.
2.Connect with Your Mama: We live on a planet that was created to sustain us. Vegetables and fruits spring forth to nourish us; helping us grow strong, and remain healthy. The earth supports us, while trees provide shelter, and create the air we depend on. What was once a forest is now one of our greatest resources; cotton, paper, wood; where would we be without the trees? Dead, that’s where. Realize how lucky you are; give thanks for all that you have, and you will feel more alive. Spending time in nature will reconnect you with your source, and awaken your senses. Our “Mama” loves us. Whenever you feel out of sorts or alone, connecting with nature will help you find your center.
3.Talk to Your Father: There comes a time to stop thinking and start seeking. Our sense of value and worth never comes from an outside force; press, property and prestige will only get you so far. Happiness is something that comes from within; inner peace is only obtained if one works for it. When we connect with God (Replace with Higher Self, Source or Infinite Intelligence if you wish) we feel more centered and fulfilled. Answers come easily; one must only get quiet enough to listen. When we learn to listen to our hearts-which is where God lives-the ever guiding voice within, will always lead us down the best path. Spiritual awareness will ‘bring you to life’.
4.Stop and Smell the Flowers: While it sounds like a cliché, this is sage advice. The sight of flowers brings joy, their colors and fragrances uplift us, creating more endorphins-the “happy chemicals” in our brain. Sending a bouquet is just about guaranteed to make anyone smile. Flowers are nature’s candy. Spend some time in nature exploring the flowers in your area; they attract butterflies, hummingbirds and other “magical beings” that are a wonder to behold. If you want to feel more alive, reclaim your sense of wonder and awe. Learn to slow down and appreciate your surroundings and all the pleasures of “Gods green earth”.
5.Get Creative: To create is to surrender. Creating is an intuitive act; though you may start out with a game plan, your creation will eventually take on a mind of its own; guiding, and moving you forward. Whether it be painting, crafting, writing or dancing; you must engage your senses, and surrender to the process. Going into a creative state will awaken greater possibilities in your life; you will learn to hear the guidance of your heart more clearly. Polls have shown that people receive their best ideas when in the shower, or driving; your mind quiets when you are in engaged in a task, thus allowing answers to appear.
6.Touch Yourself: I believe “purgatory” is feeling nothing; it is equivalent to existing in a void, or being a robot. While joy is the most sought after commodity, grief, melancholy and anger, serve their purpose as well. If you want to feel more alive, you must be willing to feel. Though pain hurts, it is only the flip side of our joy. “To the depths that we travel; so too will we rise” If a feeling is threatening to take you over, you can guide your emotions to another; by recalling things that make you feel happy or safe for instance. You can not think two thoughts at one time, so by directing your thoughts, you can always choose a better feeling. Our feelings are great indicators and guides; our bodies translate feelings differently, relaying messages of pleasure or repulsion. Passion makes the temperature rise and heart beat faster; fear makes us feel co
ld, or like we can’t breathe. What is your body telling you?
7.Speak Up! Speaking our minds can often be a challenging concept and terrifying reality; fear of public speaking is a common phobia. It may be frightening, but it sure is gratifying. Commit to Truth, in word, deed and action and you will surely feel more alive. We were born to express the insights, talents, and gifts that are unique to us; there is no other you in all of time. Integrity is about living true to who you are and what you want-learn to speak up. What truths about yourself are you currently hiding? Once your feeling sensors are open, you will be able to gauge where you stand in any situation, which enables you to make better choices, and follow your bliss.
Papierdoll staff writer Krista-Lynn Landolfi is a Professional Life Coach and Spiritual Counselor. She teaches seminars nationwide and is available for private consultation; inquire for details; Krista-Lynn@Krista-Lynn.com