It’s almost too simple. Fashion, that is. We, as a culture, whether you will admit to actively participating in it or not, have at some point realized that its ubiquitous redundancy is like a well known bumper sticker: worn on the edges but undeniably welcoming, “look at me, this is who I am.” Or, is it?
Fashion choices say a lot about what you like to do, who you like to do, how much you make and where you make it. It’s a barometer of one’s level of security, or lack thereof. A name tag. And, from accessories to basics, unless you have a personal stylist, you give away almost every ounce of opinion by what you wear.
Understandably, most of us will succumb to the pressures of career and conformity, wearing a pinched, monochromatic jumble of armor in order to buy a nicer car, a bigger house, more tech gadgets or, in most cases, better clothing. It’s safe to say that depending on our level of social interest we all have an invisible fashion syllabus. And if this is how we land jobs, excuse me, “careers,” then is it a fundamental part of how we attract our mate(s)?
I’m sure we can all remember, whether it was five years ago or just last night, when we adorned ourselves in a sexy, almost flagrant piece of clothing when pursuing a prospect at that guilty pleasure of a club downtown. Or, when we begged our mothers to buy us “‘Bongo’s” in every color imaginable just so we could uphold middle-school social sovereignty (it’s okay, I had a red pair). Whatever the case, most of us are very particular and choose certain articles of clothing in hopes of gaining a very certain type of reaction from our desired target. Think of it as preparation. If you’re taking a math quiz, you know you’re going to need a calculator, a pencil with a very strong and lengthy eraser and maybe a ruler or graphing paper. Since you probably have taken several math quizzes in the past, you know what to look for in every question or formula to make sure you’re certain of your solution. And you know the less you studied, the more likely you are to receive a lecture or sullen look from your parents and teacher. It’s okay, so you weren’t good at math, that doesn’t mean you can’t pull together some ideas on how to get the exact kind of review you’re after.
I could rattle out 101 ways to dress for the opposite sex but it’s plain to see. If you’re able to read this article, then you must have some idea of how to dress for a date. I think the poignancy of fashion, for women, is asking the question, “What am I trying to say with this outfit?” I can’t speak for all men (I’m a woman) but I can say it’s easy to determine the activities one enjoys by scoping out what they wear. The more flash a man’s got means chances are his lady friend probably has some serious flash as well. I don’t want to rest on stereotypes here, but they do offer a lot of guidance. If he’s always wearing a jersey and flip-flops then you can bet he likes girls that play hard, but clean up well too. If he’s rough, tough and covered in body art then you can put money on it he’s more into the adventurous type of gal. But then again, this is all based on assumption. If you’re not sure exactly what you’re looking for and not sure what kind of attention you want (believe me, you have a choice), I’d recommend sticking to things that are comfortable for you to wear.
This in no way implies jersey knit culottes seven days a week. Simply, wear the things that fit your body well. Be discreet. We all know the kind of attention you’ll get if you’re trying to pull off a mini-skirt and platform heels. The more you put into taking care of yourself (exercising too) the more someone who does the same will appreciate your efforts. Of course, there are the exceptions. Case in point: I personally love eating fresh fruits and vegetables, taking long walks, doing yoga and meditating. However, my partner is much more content with eating frozen version of a very famous chain’s cheese sticks and fried egg rolls, laying on the couch watching re-runs of Arrested Development. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t appreciate what it is I do to stay in shape and look nice. He does. The truth in this lesson is that you should really look into the clothes that reveal a true sense of who you are. Pulling things together can be revolutionary. If you’re true to it, you’ll probably pull off the next big trend. And we all know we’re in need of some.